I'm no Dalai Lama because he is a quintessential example on how to remain happy and hopeful in light of China invading and attempts to destroy Tibetan culture. He is not a door mat either. He is "fighting" his culture's destruction by seeking help from other countries to put pressure on China.
I know I won't be able to financially win the battle with my ex but I will always be richer with friends and with an outlook that the world is good. As in painting, you must have the dark to bring out the light.